This Week’s Sermon – Love in the 11th Hour

SCRIPTURE – Matthew 20:1-6 –  “For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard. After agreeing with the laborers for the usual daily wage, he sent them into his vineyard. When he went out about nine o’clock, he saw others standing idle in the marketplace; and he said to them, ‘You also go into the vineyard, and I will pay you whatever is right.’ So they went. When he went out again about noon and about three o’clock, he did the same. And about five o’clock he went out and found others standing around; and he said to them, ‘Why are you standing here idle all day?’ They said to him, ‘Because no one has hired us.’ He said to them, ‘You also go into the vineyard.’ When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his manager, ‘Call the laborers and give them their pay, beginning with the last and then going to the first.’ When those hired about five o’clock came, each of them received the usual daily wage. 10 Now when the first came, they thought they would receive more; but each of them also received the usual daily wage. 11 And when they received it, they grumbled against the landowner, 12 saying, ‘These last worked only one hour, and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the day and the scorching heat.’ 13 But he replied to one of them, ‘Friend, I am doing you no wrong; did you not agree with me for the usual daily wage? 14 Take what belongs to you and go; I choose to give to this last the same as I give to you. 15 Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me? Or are you envious because I am generous?’ 16 So the last will be first, and the first will be last.”

SERMON
Love in the 11th Hour
Matthew 20:1-16
September 24, 2017

 

“That’s not fair!” Have you ever heard that? Have you ever SAID that? It was a common refrain around our house after the birth of our second child, Molly. Once she came home from the hospital, it was clear that Molly was the center of attention. So, before too long, we started hearing, “That’s not fair! No one is paying attention to me! No one is playing with me! I can’t do whatever I want. It’s not fair!” Finally, my wife Leigh had to step in and say, “It’s OK, Kory, things will return to normal soon.”

I believe the refrain of, “That’s not fair!” is so familiar to us because we have an innate sense of right and wrong coded into our DNA. We inherently know when something isn’t fair, which is why this parable is so hard for us to deal with. We know what should happen, and yet the landowner does something so outlandish that we cry out with the first workers, “That’s not fair!”

Garrison Keiller warns preachers to avoid this text because it suggests that you could come to church after the sermon and still reap all the benefits. This parable is sandwiched in between two stories about fairness and privilege. In the first, Peter asks Jesus what his reward will be for giving up everything and following him. In the second, the mother of two of the disciples asks Jesus to give them the best seats when they get to heaven. In between, we get this parable about unequal workers, unfair pay, and Jesus saying, “The last shall be first and the first shall be last.”

This truly is what one commentator called “the most un-American of parables”: a vineyard owner needs workers, so he goes down to the street corner where the day laborers hang out, selects a group of them to hire, and negotiates to pay them on denarius for a day’s work. These would have been the most dependable workers, the ones with a good reputation for doing their job well. He goes back several more times during the day and hires more workers, promising them a fair wage. Finally, with only one hour left in the day, he hires a few more workers to finish the task. Realize that the good workers aren’t the ones left at the end of the day. These stragglers were probably still around because they were unhireable – deadbeats, unreliable, disabled, lazy, different.

When it comes time to pay the workers at the end of the day, the owner starts with the last workers hired, giving them a denarius, a full day’s wage, for only an hour’s work. The workers who were hired first thing in the morning start salivating, because if the late-comers got a full day’s pay, imagine how much they will get! But when they open their envelope, they get a denarius, same as the others. “That’s not fair!”

A question to ask when reading a parable from Jesus is, “Who am I in this story?” We’re obviously not the vineyard owner, and I would guess none of us would identify with the late-comers. We are the early workers. We are the ones who show up, who get the job done, who put in our work and expect our reward. We come to church, we give what we can, we serve when time allows. We may have sown some wild oats in our lives, but for the most part, we are good, faithful Christians. We’re not the last workers hired.

That’s why our injustice alarm is blaring right now. We feel the pain of the early workers because we all know someone who sneaks in by the seat of their pants. The classic example is the death-bed confession, but don’t we see this all the time? When a lane is closed, instead of getting over promptly, we see the driver speed down the close laned and cut over at the last second. Unfair! The person who judges you because of how you look instead of who you are. Unfair! The scoundrel who lives a long life when a good person dies an early death. Unfair!

When I played Little League, I was a decent player. One year, I led the team in all of the statistical categories, including most gum chewed. So when it came time to honor the team MVP, I was pretty sure my name would be on the trophy. “And the award goes to…Jeffrey!” Huh? Jeffrey? He hardly could swing a bat, much less drive in a run. All Jeffrey did was sit on the bench, cheering on his teammates, helping the coach pick up the equipment, consoling the kid who struck out. After the ceremony, the coach took me aside and said, “You know, Kory, there’s more to being an MVP than hitting the ball.” But at the time, I wanted to scream at him, “That’s not fair!”

Life is unfair, and that’s what bothers us so much about this story. When we live such a capricious, unpredictable existence, when so much of life is not fair, we feel that God should be fair. Of all people, God should be dependable, predictable, honoring our sense of right and wrong. God should be the one authority we can count on to reward people for their efforts. Treating everyone the same is fair; treating everyone the same when they are NOT the same is not fair. We believe the first shall be first and the last shall be last. So why doesn’t God?

If given the choice between love and justice, which would you choose? There is a time for both, for sure, but if you had to choose, would you choose to exercise love or exercise justice? I would imagine most of us would choose love, especially with people we love. There are times when our children need justice – you don’t clean your room, you get grounded – but, in the big picture, love is more important than justice for us.

So why do we bristle when the vineyard owner makes the same choice? Notice that the first workers who grumble so loudly get exactly what they negotiated for at the beginning of the story. They didn’t get any less because the late workers got more. But the owner chose to express love to the late workers, even if they didn’t put in a full day’s work. By doing so, he levels the playing field; those who arrived last are equal to those who arrived first. As the owner says, isn’t that his right? Isn’t that God’s right, to love those we feel aren’t as deserving as us, those who haven’t always followed the rules, those who only come to church on Christmas and Easter, or not at all? And if so, what does that tell us about the relationship between love and justice in our own lives? Which should we emphasize, especially with the late-comers, the unhireables?

I was once in charge of a large Easter Egg hunt at a church. We’re talking hundreds of people and thousands of eggs. The event started at 2 p.m., and by about 2:45 p.m., every last egg had been claimed. A few minutes before 3 p.m., a mother and little girl showed up, the girl wearing a frilly dress and clutching her Easter basket, ready to find her eggs. They thought the event started at 3 p.m. As I started to explain this to the mom, I could see the little girl’s face begin to fall. Just then, one of the kids from our church came over to us and said, “Here, she can have some of my eggs.” A few more kids did the same, and before you knew it, the little girl’s basket was brimming with Easter eggs. Was that the fair thing to do? No.

In middle school, I was in the Boy Scouts, and I was preparing for the exam to be promoted to First Class. My form of preparation was to put the Boy Scout manual on my desk and hope that somehow the information magically transferred to my brain. My mother and step-father and I had just moved to Virginia, away from all my family back in Indiana. I was struggling with issues at home and at school, so I was terribly unprepared when it came time for me to demonstrate my knowledge of knots. The Scout Master asked for a double fisherman’s knot, and I twisted and turned the rope a few times, then handed him what I would call an unprepared scout’s knot. After the test, the scoutmaster called me in and asked me how things were going at home. “Not great,” I said. “Did you study for this test?” he asked. “No,” I said. “OK,” he said, “we’ll work on those knots together.” And he handed me my first-class badge. Was that the fair thing to do? No.

Our sense of outrage at the end of this story softens a bit when we remember that there are times we have been the ones that deserved justice but instead received grace. In fact, if we want to be really honest with ourselves, we are the late workers. We are the ones who have gotten so much more than we have deserved or earned. Because, you see, God set out the rules of what it means to live as God’s people. God spelled out very clearly what we are to do and not do in order to receive the blessing of being called children of God. And every single one of us has failed. Every single one of us has fallen short. And if God was truly a God of justice, then we all would suffer the consequences of our shortcomings, just as we deserve.

But our God is first and foremost a God of love, so rather than leave us to our fate, God sent Jesus Christ to us so that we would know just how much God loves us. God sent Jesus so that we would know that, no matter how short we fall, no matter how far we run away, God loves us, God cherishes us, and God wants nothing more to bless us beyond our imaginations. Is that the fair thing to do? No. Not at all. But God has done it anyway.

So, rather than identify with the injustice of the early workers, let’s put ourselves in the place of the late workers as we open up that envelope. Because how the final pay is received fully depends upon what each person believes they deserve. How do you think the late workers felt to see that they had been paid for a full day’s work, that they now have enough money to put food on the table for the family, to provide clothing and fill their prescriptions? Imagine their surprise, their delight at getting a gift they know they don’t deserve, they know they haven’t earned, and yet is theirs anyway because of the generosity of the owner. Do we take the gift of Christ for granted, or do we receive it with the same surprise and delight?

Let’s face it. We worship an unfair God. Sometimes that means that people we think aren’t worthy of God’s blessing will be blessed. That may not have been what we would have done, but thank God it’s not up to us, right? Because if it were, there’s someone out there that thinks WE aren’t deserving of a blessing. But God grace is not measured or counted; it’s simply poured out in abundance, it’s ours for the taking.

So what do we do with this abundance of grace? We share it, of course. Rather than exacting justice, we express love. Rather than honking our horn, we wave our hand. Rather than holding grudges, we remember kindnesses. Rather than expecting apologies, we say “I’m sorry” first. Paul says, “Love keeps no record of wrongs.” Justice tallies all the ways someone is different – which means lower – than us; love says, “You are valued. You are accepted.”

There is a place for justice in our world, to be sure. Justice, when handled appropriately, can make things better. But only love can save us. Because we are the unhireables. We are the last workers. We are the ones who didn’t earn what we were given, and yet were given it anyway, in the form of a divine love crucified on a cross. God is not fair; God is loving. Thanks be to God.

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Love 101 Sermon Series – Who Do We Love

SCRIPTURE – Matthew 22:34-40 – When the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together, 35 and one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. 36 “Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” 37 He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the greatest and first commandment. 39 And a second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

SERMON
Love 101 Sermon Series
Who Do We Love?
Matthew 22:34-40
September 10, 2017

We are continuing our sermon series today called “Love 101.” With all the nastiness in our world today, we need a refresher course on what it means to love one another, because it feels like we’ve forgotten. Technology and social media have made it easy for our dark sides to come to light, because we can share our most divisive, most hateful comments without fear of repercussion. In fact, I would say we’ve sometimes used our love of God as a reason to hate our neighbors, because they don’t love the same God we do, or don’t love God in the same way we do. But that’s not the kind of love the Bible calls us to have. So for this series, we’re focusing on what scriptures say about how we are called to love.

That call includes how we love our neighbors. Spiritual write Henri Nouwen said, “Our society seems to be increasingly full of fearful, defensive, aggressive people anxiously clinging to their property and inclined to look at their surrounding world with suspicion, always expecting an enemy to suddenly appear and do harm.” Pretty spot-on, right? That was written in the 1970s, and in the subsequent 40 years, we haven’t gotten any better at loving our neighbor.

That’s ironic, because loving our neighbor is a fundamental part of having faith. Listen to these words: “Worship God and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, the poor, the neighbor who is near of kin, the neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side the wayfarer you meet.” Sounds a little like the passage from Matthew, doesn’t it? Actually, it’s from the Koran, the Islamic holy book. In fact, that book teaches that it is an offense to God if a person harms or annoys their neighbor. You can’t even annoy your neighbor? If that’s the case, I wouldn’t make a very good Muslim, and neither would my neighbors.

The Christian basis for the tenet of loving your neighbor comes from the passage we read today from Matthew 22. Jesus’ answer to the question about the greatest commandment is a well-known piece of scripture, one that is often memorized and recited. Just about everyone knows “Love God and love your neighbor.” But what most people don’t understand is just how controversial Jesus’ answer was in the context in which it was given. Let’s face it, if these commandments were easy ones, we all would be doing a much better job of following them. But we’re not, so there must be more to this.

This passage comes near the end of Matthew’s gospel. We’ve already had Palm Sunday and Jesus’ entry into Jerusalem. Since then, he’s overturned the tables in the temple, cursed a fig tree, had his authority questioned several times, and told a series of parables critiquing the religious elite. In other words, Jesus was NOT in a good mood. Starting in chapter 22, we have what’s called “the Temple Disputes,” a string of stories about the Jewish religious leaders trying to trap Jesus into violating the law and self-incriminating through blasphemy. After out-thinking the leaders on questions about to whom you should pay taxes and how marriage works in the afterlife, Jesus is hit with our question for today.

We’re told right away what is happening. A lawyer asks Jesus a question to test him. That’s not a condemnation of lawyers, but it does give you a sense of the prosecutorial spirit on the question. The lawyer calls Jesus “Teacher,” an attempt at mock reverence, then ask him which commandment in the law is the greatest. If I were to ask you how many commandments there were in the law, you’d probably guess 10, and for good reason. But the 10 we know are only the tip of the legal iceberg.

In the Torah, the first five books of the Bible, there are a total of 613 laws given by God to Moses to share with the Israelites. That breaks down to 248 things you should do and 365 things you shouldn’t do. The law was given so the Israelites would know exactly what God expected of them in order for them to live holy lives. Do this, don’t do that, and you will be holy people.

Six-hundred and thirteen commandments. So how could Jesus choose just one? It’s a trap. If he names one, then he invalidates the authority of the others. And if he says they are all important, he’ll have to explain why he’s already broken several of them, like not working on the Sabbath. So, Jesus does what he typically does in this situation: he doesn’t answer the question. The first part of the answer he gives is not a commandment. It is part of the Shema, a Jewish blessing from Deuteronomy that was read earlier. In that one sentence, Jesus sums up the whole of the law. The 613 commandments can be fulfilled by loving God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.

If Jesus had just stopped there, the whole nature of our understanding of faith would be different. And, to be honest, a whole lot easier. If we only had to love God, but didn’t have to love our neighbor, I bet two things would happen: (1) more people would have faith, because it would be easier, and (2) we wouldn’t be here, because we would have annihilated the human race in the name of God a long time ago. Even with the command to love our neighbor, we’ve still destroyed a lot of lives in Jesus’ name.

In this passage, this point is where Jesus turns from religious to political. To be a person of faith, you have to follow the first commandment. You have to love God; that’s kind of the point of faith in the first place. But to be a person of faith, according to the law, you don’t have to follow the second one. In other words, based on the law, you can love God and not love your neighbor and still call yourself a believer.

Let’s take the 10 commandments. Do you have to love your neighbor to fulfill any of them? Can you not kill and still hate your neighbor? Can you not lie and still hate your neighbor? Can you honor your parents and not worship idols and keep the Sabbath and not covet your neighbor’s stuff and still hate your neighbor? Of course you can. You can follow all 613 commandments to the letter and still hate your neighbor.

That’s why what Jesus does here is so radical. After he gives the first commandment, which he calls the greatest, he then says, “And a second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.” He doesn’t say, “And there’s a second one, which is also kind of important.” He doesn’t say, “After you do the first one, you should probably do the second one.” He says, “And a second is like the first,” which says to me that Jesus believed that loving your neighbor was equally as important as loving God.

Well now, that’s a whole different ball of wax. I’m fine not killing my neighbor and not stealing from my neighbor, but loving my neighbor? Have you met my neighbor? He uses his leaf blower at 7 a.m. and she doesn’t bring in her garbage cans on time and I think they voted for somebody different than me. Love God? Hey, I’m not perfect, but I can do that. But love my neighbor? Is Jesus serious here?

Because that isn’t already hard enough to do, let’s complicate this some more. You may remember that this issue of loving your neighbor has come up before with Jesus. In a passage from Luke, a lawyer tries to test Jesus – what is up with lawyers back then? – by asking him, “Who is my neighbor?” Jesus then tells the parable of the Good Samaritan, who stops to help a man who’s been robbed and beaten. What you may not realize is that Samaritans were the sworn enemy of the Jews back then. It would be like Jesus saying a Korean dictator or a Neo-Nazi stopped to help the man. Jesus asks the lawyer who the neighbor was in the story, and he answers, “The one who showed him mercy,” to which Jesus responds, “Go and do likewise.”

So, according to Jesus, not only are we supposed to love God, we’re also supposed to love our neighbor, and our neighbor is not defined as people who live near us or share our values or like or Facebook posts, but our neighbor is anyone with the capacity to show mercy to someone else. So you are my neighbor. And the family who lives next to me are my neighbors. But my neighbor is also the Muslim woman at the local hot chocolate place who asked me what I did for a living, then asked what I was preaching about on Sunday. And my neighbor is the atheist woman with whom I’m working on a project to help Lexington be a more compassionate city. And my neighbor is even that person I don’t know in the car behind me who lets me change lanes at the last second because I wasn’t paying attention, and waves back to me when I give a wave of thanks. That’s my neighbor. And I’m called to love them. And what about the people around me who don’t show mercy, but instead spew anger and vitriol? Well, I think we should try to love them, too, because the only alternative is not to love them, and that doesn’t seem to be working very well.

Not only does Jesus call me to love our neighbor, but I’m called to love them as I love myself. There’s a whole other sermon about the challenges of loving ourselves too much, or not loving ourselves enough, but we’ll save that one. Here’s what this means for me today: to love my neighbor as I love myself means that whatever perks and privileges I want for myself, I must also extend to my neighbor. Whatever rights I believe I deserve, I should make sure my neighbor has, as well. Whatever fundamental protections I believe I should have, from a roof over my head to access to healthcare to the ability to speak freely, I should work to ensure my neighbor has, as well. Under Jesus’ definition, there’s a world of people out there who are our neighbors, and who have so much less than we do. So, what are we going to do about it? Because, after all, by loving and serving them, we are loving and serving God.

If Jesus had only given the first commandment, it would have let a whole lot of us off the hook, and allowed us to piously proclaim our love for God while we treat one another badly. In Luke’s version of this passage, Jesus says about these two commandments, “Do these and you shall live.” Not “memorize these” or “recite these” or “think about these.’ He says, “Do these and you shall live.” And here’s the beauty of that command: if we all focus on loving our neighbors, then all of us will be loved, because we are all neighbors. Now, we all know that not everyone will do that. Some people will continue hating their Samaritan neighbor, the neighbor who they deem is not worthy of love. That’s all the more reason for us to love those who are being hated, to remind them that they are worthy of love. And – here’s real challenge – we still are called to love those who hate others, because to be honest, they probably hate others because they haven’t been loved enough. So, as I see it, the answer to all these problems is love. God knows there are a LOT of problems with this world, and we’ the cause of most of them. They can be paralyzing at times. Where do you even start to make a difference? How about we start here: Love God and love your neighbor. If we can focus on doing those two things, I have a feeling that will be enough.

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Love 101 Sermon Series – Why Do We Love?

SCRIPTURE – John 3:1-17 – Now there was a Pharisee named Nicodemus, a leader of the Jews. He came to Jesus by night and said to him, “Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher who has come from God; for no one can do these signs that you do apart from the presence of God.” Jesus answered him, “Very truly, I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God without being born from above.” Nicodemus said to him, “How can anyone be born after having grown old? Can one enter a second time into the mother’s womb and be born?” Jesus answered, “Very truly, I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God without being born of water and Spirit. What is born of the flesh is flesh, and what is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not be astonished that I said to you, ‘You[d] must be born from above.’ The wind blows where it chooses, and you hear the sound of it, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.” Nicodemus said to him, “How can these things be?” 10 Jesus answered him, “Are you a teacher of Israel, and yet you do not understand these things?

11 “Very truly, I tell you, we speak of what we know and testify to what we have seen; yet you do not receive our testimony. 12 If I have told you about earthly things and you do not believe, how can you believe if I tell you about heavenly things? 13 No one has ascended into heaven except the one who descended from heaven, the Son of Man. 14 And just as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, 15 that whoever believes in him may have eternal life.

16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not perish but may have eternal life.

17 “Indeed, God did not send the Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.

SERMON

Love 101 Sermon Series
Why Do We Love
John 3:1-17
Sept. 3, 2017
Rev. Kory Wilcoxson

My guess is you don’t know who Rollen Stewart is. But I bet you would recognize him when you saw him. Not if he was just walking down the street, though. You’d have to see him in his most famous setting: usually right behind the goal posts at a football game, or behind the catcher at a baseball game. Rockin’ Rollen always stood out for two reasons: his rainbow wig, and the sign he displayed. You’re watching the game, they flash the score, and you see, “Bears 14, Packers 10, John 3:16.”

Rollen Stewart made it his personal crusade to spread the word of God by showing his John 3:16 sign at every sporting event he could attend. And what better way to share the good news than with that passage? It’s arguably the most famous one in the Bible, and has developed a cultural reputation as the gospel in miniature. I had an unbelieving friend who told me that he memorized John 3:16 just so he could impress girls at parties. I don’t think that’s what Jesus meant by “love thy neighbor.” But it does show the influence and popularity of John 3:16 as the ultimate Christian slogan: “For God so loved the world…” Unfortunately, even though this passage is famous for telling us why we should love, it’s been famously misused to in a way that is anything but loving.

Today we continue our “Love 101” sermon series, in which we are relearning what it means to love each other with the love of God. It seems like our world today has lost the ability to do that, and instead defaults to criticism, conflict, and hate. We know that God is love, and God’s love is unconditional, and yet we humans have built walls and erected fences to determine who is and isn’t worthy of God’s love. We need a love re-boot.

John 3:16 is a great place to continue this remedial love lesson, because it answers the question, “Why should we love each other?” Simply put, we should love each other because God first loved us. Now, that may not seem like a big deal; after all, we’re pretty loveable, aren’t we? Well, most days. That’s not what is scandalous about this passage. Instead, it’s the extent to which God goes to show God’s love for everyone.

It starts with understanding what John means when he says, “God so loved the world.” We might hear that as a neutral term. Of course, God loves the world, God made it in the first place! The rocks and trees, the skies and seas, the peacocks and stink bugs. But the Greek word John uses for “world,” which is “kosmos,” is different than the word that is used for “earth.” When John speaks of the “kosmos,” it is not neutral. Listen to these words from one of John’s letters: “Do not love the world or the things in the world. The love of the Father is not in those who love the world; for all that is in the world—the desire of the flesh, the desire of the eyes, the pride in riches—comes not from the Father but from the world. And the world and its desire are passing away, but those who do the will of God live forever.”

For John, the “world” was a decidedly negative thing, representing all that is separate from or even opposed to God. The “world” was filled with people who desired things of the flesh, who desired the riches of the world, who made everything a priority but their relationship with God. These are the people who owned slaves, who put their love of country above the well-being of others, who hoarded their money while others starved. Think of the kind of person you most despise right now. That’s what John means when he says, “the world.”

So you see how radical a statement it is for John to say, “For God so loved the world.” Loved? Not “tolerated” or “put up with”? Not “God so pitied the world” or “God so wanted to change the world”? Nope. God so loved the world that he gave his only son, that whoever believes in him may not perish, but will have eternal life. That’s good news, isn’t it?

Well, not for everyone. Not for those who don’t believe. This verse has been used in ways that make it bad news. It’s been used as a blunt-force instrument, pounded over the heads and hearts of non-believers. “Believe or perish!” You’re either in or you’re out, and if you’re out, then there’s good reason not to love you. This verse seems to draw a dividing line between those who believe and those who don’t. And can I just name for a second that one of the main reasons people don’t believe in Jesus isn’t because of Jesus, but because of how the people who claim to follow Jesus have acted in his name? It seems like if we really wanted to condemn, there’s plenty of reasons to do so all the way around.

Despite its misuse, there’s still good news here, but you can’t stop at John 3:16. You can’t have John 3:16 without John 3:17, because that second verse provides a much-needed corrective to the misuse of the first. It says, “God did not send the Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” John says explicitly that Jesus is not about condemning those who don’t believe, and yet how much of the hatred and violence in our world is buttressed by the false dichotomy between believers and non-believers. Or, let try to be more accurate here, the false dichotomy between those who believe the way I do and those who don’t believe the way I do. But, we can’t forget, “God so loved the world.”

Let me unpack that. If a person claims to be a follower of Jesus Christ, then there is no justification in scripture for them to hate someone else. In fact, there’s ample evidence that they should go out of their way to love those who are different from them. Unfortunately, there are parts of scripture that can be used to justify hate, but when placed in the larger rubric of the Bible’s overall message, they don’t hold up. In the Bible, love wins. Period. And any attempt to believe or act otherwise is a false gospel.

And yet, we Christians still find reason to hate. For me, I hate people who hate, which kind of defeats the purpose and makes my point. I can easily find reasons to draw lines between me and those who believe differently than me. While I was on sabbatical last summer, I visited a number of different churches in the area. At one, the preacher spent a good part of the sermon railing against gays and lesbians, and then said, “There are even churches in our community who welcome them into worship.” And I swear he looked right at me. I can’t say in church what I was thinking at that moment. I wanted to remind this gentleman of John 3:17, that Jesus didn’t come to condemn, but to save. But then God reminded me of John 3:16, that God so loved the world, even people who seek to exclude others from worship.

At the church I served in Chicago, we had a board meeting in which we were considering nesting an Asian new church start. For me, it was a no-brainer. A new church needs a place to worship and fellowship, we have space available, let’s do it. But several Board members were gun-shy because the last time they tried this, it didn’t go well. One person in particular catalogued all the things that went wrong, including, “And the food they made stunk up Fellowship Hall so much you could still smell it on Sunday morning.” And then, top it all off, he said, “I know it’s the Christian thing to do, but I don’t think we should do it.” I can’t say in church what I was thinking at that moment.  I’ve never screamed at a church board meeting – yet – but that’s about as close as I got. Have you ever known something was the Christian thing to do, but didn’t do it anyway, like loving someone you didn’t want to love? Yeah, me too. But “God so loved the world.”

I think the man in Chicago and Nicodemus had a lot in common. Nicodemus was a smart man, a Pharisee, a member of their ruling council. He was as religious as they come. But he was so stuck in his head that he had closed off his heart. Jesus tells him that to truly see the kingdom of God he has to be born again, and Nicodemus gets all literal, trying to imagine a second re-birth. Sometimes being smart can work against having faith, because in our attempt to rationalize or explain or make sense of something, we don’t leave much room for God’s spirit work. Our head tells us we don’t want Fellowship Hall to smell like spicy pad thai on Sunday morning, even if it’s the Christian thing to do. But that doesn’t leave much room for the radical, logic-defying love of God.

I think this is a challenge for us, because we’re pretty smart people. Our intellect plays an important role in our faith, but it’s not a substitute for loving as God calls us to love. Intellectual understanding is important, but that’s not what drives you to the bedside of a dying person. Rational explanations can be helpful, but they don’t spur you to stand up for the oppressed, to speak up for the poor and homeless, to show up when hatred is present. We don’t do those kinds of things out of knowledge or intellect; we do them out of love for each other as God’s children, because God so loved the world.

John’s statement that God so loved this world is not a theory about salvation. It’s a specific statement about the nature of the God we claim to follow, shown to us in Jesus Christ. God so loved the Samaritan woman. God so loved the paralyzed and the lepers. God so loves Asian congregations looking for a home. God so loves people who’ve been excluded from worship because of their skin color or sexual orientation. God so loves this world.

But that also means God loves other people, too. God loved the Egyptians who enslaved the Israelites. God loved the Pharisees who condemned Jesus to die. God loves the people who want to draw the lines of division, who want to say who’s in and who’s out, who march with torches or raise prices on medications or don’t like the smell of Asian food in their church. Because, as we’ve learned over and over again this week, when the rescue boat arrives at your flooded house to take you to safety, you don’t really care about the faith of the person driving, because you know they are there out of love.

“For God so loved the world.” That’s the only justification we should ever need to live our lives with love. That doesn’t mean we can be disappointed or discouraged or angry at the way other people act. I’m sure God feels those ways toward us from time to time. But the bottom line is love. We have to careful about not letting our heads get in the way, of not feeling so sure that what we believe is right that it creates a boundary between us and those different than us. The Bible translation The Message renders verse 17 this way: “God didn’t go to all the trouble of sending his Son merely to point an accusing finger, telling the world how bad it was. He came to help, to put the world right again.”

Are we pointing an accusing finger? Or are we helping to put the world right again? That’s what Jesus came to do. That’s the work we are called to do. God so loved the world and calls us to do the same. After all, THAT is the Christian thing to do.

 

 

 

 

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Faith vs. Love

“Love is patient, love is kind…” We hear those words and think of lacy veils and unity candles, flower girls and “The Wedding March”. Whenever I meet with couples to talk about their wedding and I ask about readings, they always say, “What’s that one thing about love and stuff?” I Corinthians 13. I was performing a wedding once where this passage wasn’t read and the police came in and arrested the couple.Image result for faith love graphic

Seriously, this is one of the most recognized and beautiful pieces of prose in the Bible. It sounds like the blueprint for a healthy relationship. But that was not Paul’s intent. He wasn’t writing a Best Man speech. “Barnabas and Eustachia are getting married tomorrow and I have to say something at the reception.” Instead, he wrote I Corinthians 13 to chastise a church that had forgotten how to love each other.

Paul was writing for a congregation that was as diverse as it was divided. Rich land-owners and poor slaves. Powerful men and powerless women. White aristocrats and black servants. It’s easy to be patient and kind with someone you love. But can you exercise agape love with someone different than you, someone who has no value in your eyes, someone you have been taught to hate? Paul’s statement here about love is not addressing matrimonial fidelity. It’s addressing a political reality. Put into modern language, we can only be one nation under God if we are guided by love.

You make think this is overkill. After all, love is one of the basic human emotions. Do we really need this remedial lesson from Paul? Based on what I see on the news and on Facebook, you bet we do. If this love thing was easy, don’t you think we would have figured it out by now?

But we haven’t, because our desire to be right often supersedes our desire to love, and we humans will go to great lengths to assert we are right, to the point that love no longer has a presence in our lives. How else do you explain terrorism? How else do you explain hate crimes? It’s the notion of “I’m right and they’re wrong” taken to the extreme. It’s the epitome of someone’s beliefs take precedence over the call to love.

Which is what I find to be so fascinating about this passage. At the end, after Paul lays out the definition of how we love, he says, “And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is…” Now let me stop right there. If you didn’t know how this sentence ends, what would you guess? I wouldn’t guess that love is the most important of these three. I would guess faith. After all, isn’t the Bible a book about faith? Isn’t it Paul’s mission in life to get people to believe the good news of Jesus Christ, to have faith? It’s what sets us apart as Christians. I know plenty of people who are loving but have no faith, so it’s not love that sets us apart. It’s our faith, our beliefs, our way of understanding the world. Shouldn’t faith be the most important thing?

Well, what happens when faith trumps love? If I put my faith first, and I believe I am right, then I’m going to do whatever I can to help others see how they are wrong. After all, I want everyone to believe the way I do, because that is what’s most important. So, I’ll preach and pray, I’ll plead and cajole, I’ll use scare tactics and incentives, whatever it takes to get you to have the faith I have. And if you don’t, if you believe differently than me and I can’t convince you otherwise, then, because love is secondary to faith, I have the right – in my mind – to hate you. If faith comes first, then if you don’t believe like me, I have no reason to love you.

Do you see how this may be part of the reason we are where we are as a country? Too many people have put faith in front of love, which makes it easy to reject those who don’t believe like we do. And even those who claim the same faith as us can be ostracized, demonized, and targeted if they don’t look like us or sound like us or do things the way we think they should. Don’t get me wrong, our faith is very, very important. It’s what makes us followers of Christ. But if that faith is not undergirded by love, if our love doesn’t drive how we exercise our faith, then we are nothing.

If you want further proof, a good place to turn is our book about faith. Several times in scripture Jesus gets into a verbal scuffle with the most religious people of his day. For example, Jesus gets into trouble for healing someone on the Sabbath. Why is this a problem? Because he’s violating a rule of faith: don’t work on the Sabbath. But he puts love first. Another time, he’s criticized for eating with tax collectors and sinners, the oppressed people of his day. Why? He was making himself ritually unclean, a no-no for a faithful person. But he puts love first, daring to side with the marginalized, the poor, those that others felt weren’t deserving of a voice or a seat at the table. Who would Jesus side with today? Who are we siding with?

“The greatest of these is love,” Paul says. When you live that way, then the lines you’ve drawn to divide you from others are erased. When you live with love first, you don’t care which spiritual gift is the greatest or most valuable. When you live with love first, you don’t seek to create hierarchies among people of different races (“there is neither Jew or Greek”). When you live with love first, you don’t seek to create hierarchies among people of different socio-economic situations (“there is neither slave nor free”). When you live with love first, you don’t seek to create hierarchies among people of different genders (“there is neither male nor female”).

That’s what we’re missing today. We’ve stopped putting love first and instead chosen to highlight what separates us. If we all did that, then we’d have good reasons to hate the person next to us, because we’re all different from everyone else. But we can put aside those differences in the name of love. So why is it we get along with each other in church (most of the time), but don’t get along with those who believe or behave differently than us? Because we’re not putting love first, and love is our only hope for survival. After all, it’s only agape love that could take a gathering of individuals and mold them into a beloved community. It’s only agape love that could heal the wounds of segregation and alienation between Jew and Gentile, slave and free, black and white, left and right, gay and straight, rich and poor. It’s only agape love that gives us the courage to seek solidarity with the suffering, to have compassion toward enemies, to stoop down and serve the least of these. Our beliefs won’t do that for us if they are not grounded in God’s love for us and for each other.

Someone once said to me, “You can be right or you can have friends.” Too many of us have twisted our faith into a mandate to hate others because we’re right and they’re wrong. But I would rather get to Heaven and find out that I loved too much than not enough. I choose to follow the well-traveled advice of poet Edwin Markum: “He drew a circle that shut me out-heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle and took him in!”

To be faithful to the gospel of Jesus Christ, we need to widen our circles to take in those we would otherwise exclude. That’s the only way we’re going to make it through this world of protests and rallies, nuclear missiles tests and suicide bombings. By all rights, with what the world throws at us every day, we should all be absolutely bonkers crazy by now. But we have love, and remember what love does: Love bears all things, love believes all things, love hopes all things, love endures all things. Hope is important, faith is essential, but love is the greatest of these.

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Love 101 Sermon Series – How Do We Love

SCRIPTURE – I Corinthians 13 – If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast,[a] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; 10 but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly,[b] but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. 13 And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.

SERMON
Love 101 Sermon Series
How Do We Love?
I Corinthians 13
Aug. 27, 2017

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today…oh, sorry! Every time I read this passage I just assume I’m at a wedding. Whenever I meet with couples to talk about their wedding and I ask about readings, they always say, “What’s that one thing about love and stuff?” I Corinthians 13. I was performing a wedding once where this passage wasn’t read and the police came in and arrested the couple. Seriously, this is one of the most recognized and beautiful pieces of prose in the Bible…but it’s not about what you think it is about.

We’re continuing our “Love 101” sermon series today, in which we are hitting the reset button on our understanding of love. The concept of love is so overused and misunderstood in our world today, and there’s good evidence to show that we seriously lack the kind of complete, intense love to which God calls us in the Bible. So, we are seeking to gain a renewed understanding of what it means to love the way God calls us to love.

“Love is patient, love is kind…” We hear those words and think of lacy veils and unity candles, flower girls and ring bearers. It sounds like the blueprint for a healthy relationship. But that was not Paul’s intent. He wasn’t writing a Best Man speech. “Barnabas and Eustachia are getting married tomorrow and I have to say something at the reception.” He was actually writing to chastise a church that had forgotten how to love each other, especially those who were different.

This is one of those places in the Bible where knowing the context is extremely important. Of all the churches that Paul helped start, the church in Corinth was his problem child.

Corinth was a major metropolitan city and seaport through which the world flowed. If it was illegal and immoral, it was happening in Corinth. Believers in this new church were being seduced by the surrounding pagan culture that beckoned them back to lives of sin. I have a friend who serves the Disciples church in Las Vegas. I asked him what it was like to be a pastor there, and he said, “It’s hard to worship when there’s a party going on outside.” That was Corinth.

The church itself was becoming increasingly conflicted over several issues, including who should be the ones in power. If you didn’t believe a certain way or possess a certain kind of spiritual gift, you weren’t as important. The church was dividing along racial lines, along socioeconomic lines, and along the lines of who was considered valuable and who wasn’t. Isn’t it comforting to know the church has moved past all those sins of judgment?

Paul saw the fundamental flaw in all that the Corinthians were doing: they were trying to exercise their faith without love. They were claiming that some spiritual gifts, like speaking in tongues or having wisdom, were more important than others. So, Paul tries to get the Corinthians back on track. In chapter 12 he clarifies that everyone has gifts to be used in service to God and tries to even the playing field by saying, “There are many parts, but one body.” He ends chapter 12 by encouraging them to “eagerly desire the greater gifts,” then tells them “now I will show you the most excellent way.” The most excellent way is Ch. 13.

So, knowing that context, imagine how his words would have been heard by the Corinthians. “If I speak in tongues, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all knowledge, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor, but have not love, I gain nothing.” This was Paul’s way of saying that spiritual gifts meaning nothing if they are not undergirded with a foundation of love for the other person and for God.

He then goes on to show them what love really is, using the Greek word agape, which we talked about last week. Agape love is a love that focuses on the well-being of others and puts their needs first. Agape love is love in action. So, it makes sense that Paul defines what love is by telling us what love does. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy or boast, it isn’t proud. Love at its purest is outwardly focused. It’s a love that reaches out to those who didn’t deserve it; a love that puts the interest of the other first; a love that forgives people and starts over with them; and a love that sacrifices itself for others. It’s exactly the kind of love that transforms a collection of individuals into a church family, and the kind that the Corinthians were missing.

Remember, Paul is not saying this to couples in pre-marital counseling. He’s saying to people very different from each other. Rich landowners and poor slaves. Powerful men and powerless women. White aristocrats and black servants. It’s easy to be patient and kind with someone you love. But can you exercise agape love with someone different than you, someone who has no value in your eyes, someone you have been taught to hate? Paul’s statement here about love is not addressing matrimonial fidelity. It’s addressing a political reality. Put into modern language, we can only be one nation under God if we are guided by love.

You make think this is overkill. After all, love is one of the basic human emotions. Do we really need this remedial lesson from Paul? Based on what I see on the news and on Facebook, you bet we do. If this love thing was easy, don’t you think we would have figured it out by now?

But we haven’t, because our desire to be right often supersedes our desire to love, and we humans will go to great lengths to assert we are right, to the point that love no longer has a presence in our lives. How else do you explain terrorism? How else do you explain hate crimes? It’s the notion of “I’m right and they’re wrong” taken to the extreme. It’s the epitome of someone’s beliefs take precedence over the call to love.

Which is what I find to be so fascinating about this passage. At the end, after Paul lays out the definition of how we love, he says, “And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is…” Now let me stop right there. If you didn’t know how this sentence ends, what would you guess? I wouldn’t guess that love is the most important of these three. I would guess faith. After all, isn’t the Bible a book about faith? Isn’t it Paul’s mission in life to get people to believe the good news of Jesus Christ, to have faith? It’s what sets us apart as Christians. I know plenty of people who are loving but have no faith, so it’s not love that sets us apart. It’s our faith, our beliefs, our way of understanding the world. Shouldn’t faith be the most important thing?

Well, what happens when faith trumps love? If I put my faith first, and I believe I am right, then I’m going to do whatever I can to help others see how they are wrong. After all, I want everyone to believe the way I do because that is what’s most important. So, I’ll preach and pray, I’ll plead and cajole, I’ll use scare tactics and incentives, whatever it takes to get you to have the faith I have. And if you don’t, if you believe differently than me and I can’t convince you otherwise, then, because love is secondary to faith, I have the right – in my mind – to hate you. If faith comes first, then if you don’t believe like me, I have no reason to love you.

Do you see how this may be part of the reason we are where we are as a country? Too many people have put faith in front of love, which makes it easy to reject those who don’t believe like we do. And even those who claim the same faith as us can be ostracized, demonized, and targeted if they don’t look like us or sound like us or do things the way we think they should. Don’t get me wrong, our faith is very, very important. It’s what makes us followers of Christ. But if that faith is not undergirded by love, if our love doesn’t drive how we exercise our faith, then we are nothing.

If you want further proof, a good place to turn is our book about faith. Several times in scripture Jesus gets into a verbal scuffle with the most religious people of his day. For example, Jesus gets into trouble for healing someone on the Sabbath. Why is this a problem? Because he’s violating a rule of faith: don’t work on the Sabbath. But he puts love first. Another time, he’s criticized for eating with tax collectors and sinners, the oppressed people of his day. Why? He was making himself ritually unclean, a no-no for a faithful person. But he puts love first, daring to side with the marginalized, the poor, those that others felt weren’t deserving of a voice or a seat at the table. Who would Jesus side with today? Who are we siding with?

“The greatest of these is love,” Paul says. When you live that way, then the lines you’ve drawn to divide you from others are erased. When you live with love first, you don’t care which spiritual gift is the greatest or most valuable. When you live with love first, you don’t seek to create hierarchies among people of different races (“there is neither Jew nor Greek”). When you live with love first, you don’t seek to create hierarchies among people of different socio-economic situations (“there is neither slave nor free”). When you live with love first, you don’t seek to create hierarchies among people of different genders (“there is neither male nor female”).

That’s what we’re missing today. We’ve stopped putting love first and instead chosen to highlight what separates us. If we all did that, then we’d have good reasons to hate the person next to us, because we’re all different from everyone else. But we can put aside those differences in the name of love. So why is it we get along with each other but don’t get along with those who believe or behave differently than us? Because we’re not putting love first, and love is our only hope for survival. After all, it’s only agape love that could take a gathering of individuals and mold them into a beloved community. It’s only agape love that could heal the wounds of segregation and alienation between Jew and Gentile, slave and free, black and white, left and right, gay and straight, rich and poor. It’s only agape love that gives us the courage to seek solidarity with the suffering, to have compassion toward enemies, to stoop down and serve the least of these. Our beliefs won’t do that for us if they are not grounded in God’s love for us and for each other.

Someone once said to me, “You can be right or you can have friends.” Too many of us have twisted our faith into a mandate to hate others because we’re right and they’re wrong. But I would rather get to Heaven and find out that I loved too much than not enough. I choose to follow the advice of poet Edwin Markum: “He drew a circle that shut me out-heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle and took him in!”

To be faithful to the gospel of Jesus Christ, we need to widen our circles to take in those we would otherwise exclude. That’s the only way we’re going to make it through this world of protests and rallies, nuclear missiles tests and suicide bombings. By all rights, with what the world throws at us every day, we should all be absolutely bonkers crazy by now. But we have love, and remember what love does: Love bears all things, love believes all things, love hopes all things, love endures all things. Hope is important, faith is essential, but love is the greatest of these.

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Love 101 Sermon Series – What Is Love

What does it mean to love in our world today? Do we love our family the same way we love ice cream? Do we love God in the same way we love our favorite sports team? In this sermon series, we’re going back to the basics of what it means to love the way the Bible teaches us.

SCRIPTURE – I John 4:7-21 –  Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. 11 Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.

13 By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and do testify that the Father has sent his Son as the Savior of the world. 15 God abides in those who confess that Jesus is the Son of God, and they abide in God. 16 So we have known and believe the love that God has for us.

God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God, and God abides in them. 17 Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness on the day of judgment, because as he is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love. 19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Those who say, “I love God,” and hate their brothers or sisters, are liars; for those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen. 21 The commandment we have from him is this: those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.

SERMON
Love 101 Sermon Series
#1 – What Is Love
1 John 4:7-21
August 20, 2017

You all have heard me preach enough now that you know I like to start most of my sermons with some sort of ice-breaker. That’s Public Speaking 101, right? Get them laughing and you’ve got them listening. A quip or a funny story or – my favorite – a pun is a great way to get the ball rolling and ensure that I’ll have your attention for at least the next 30 seconds, hopefully longer.

But in the wake of what’s going on in the world lately, I’m not feeling very funny. Instead, my heart feels heavy. At our General Assembly last month, one of our denomination’s prophetic preachers said that the world is too broken for preachers to give cute sermons. Of course, I was in the middle of the “Gospel According to Pixar” sermon series. Ouch. And, in my mind, there’s still room for humor and light-heartedness from the pulpit.

But not now. Not today. Along with my heaviness of heart is a determination of spirit. We have work to do, church, and it starts with going back to the Bible and relearning what it means to be a child of God and a follower of Christ. Because when people can march without masks or hoods and call for violence against others not like them, when people drive vehicles into crowds, killing innocent people, including women and children, I’m not sure even Pixar is creative or courageous enough to provide answers. We need the word of God, both written and alive among us.

So we start a new sermon series today, planned weeks before the events of Charlottesville and Barcelona, called “Love 101: Back to the Basics.” We need to hit the reset button on who we are created and called to be, because this is where the good news of Jesus Christ starts. By the end of this series, you very well may say as you walk out to your car, “Geez! Enough about love already. I’m sick of hearing about love.” But I would hope we never get tired of hearing how much God loves us, and how much we are called to love each other.

So, you want an ice-breaker this morning? Here you go, courtesy of author Phillip Gulley: “For many, religion is how we decide who to love and who to hate.” As a loving Christian, I want to argue with him, but history shows otherwise. In fact, here’s a very unscientific list of the people I know who have been hated in the name of religion: the pagans, the Samaritans, the Jews, the Muslims, women, Protestants, the Jews again, divorced people, indigenous people, the Muslims again, people who dare to translate the Bible into English, the Jews again, black people, people who dance and play cards, homosexuals, people of a different political persuasion, and lets go ahead and throw the Jews and Muslims in there one more time. History shows that Christians have a poor record of finding motivation for loving these people, but have found ample reasons – based in scripture – for hating them.

What we need to name today is that any justification for hating someone that is rooted in scripture is sinful, because the Bible is clear throughout that hate has no place in God’s kingdom. Instead, God’s kingdom is characterized as a place where love abounds. In fact, the Bible goes even further than that, as we heard in today’s scripture. It doesn’t say God is loving, which of course God is. It doesn’t say God loves, which of course God does. It says God is love. So if God is love, and we are created in the image of God, then that means we are created to love. Man, have we messed that up or what? Maybe that’s because we don’t know what Godly love is. So let’s see if John can help us here.

John, wrote his gospel around the year 90 to a specific congregation. John had given birth to this church, but it was struggling to weather external attacks from the Jewish and pagan leaders and internal undermining from false teachers. Sensing that division was going to destroy his church, John wrote three letters of explanation and clarification, which are the three letters of John at the end of the New Testament. One of the things John is addressing is the hateful discourse coming from the mouths of the false teachers, who were trying to split the church and draw people away from the congregation. They were encouraging people to hate those not like them, which leads to our passage today. John is basically saying to his faithful community that they should test the words of this divisive group by using the measure of love. Is what they say loving? Are they demonstrating love in their actions? If not, then they are not of God, because God is love.

What kind of love is this of which John speaks, mentioning it 28 times in this passage? The Greek word for love here is agape. The Greeks actually had several words they used to describe love, which makes sense when you think of all the different kinds of love that exists. There was eros, the romantic kind of love. There is philia, a love between friends. Storge is a kind of family love, like the love siblings would have for each other.

But none of those describe the kind of love John is talking about here. He is talking about agape. Agape is a selfless, other-focused love that represents love in its highest form. When Jesus speaks of the love God has for him, it is agape love. In fact, John opens this passage by calling his readers, “Beloved.” The Greek word is agapetoi. We are agaped by God, and called to agape God and others.

So what separates agape love from the other types of love we experience in our lives? Is it possible to agape ice cream? Can we agape our favorite sports team? That is a completely different kiind of love, in my mind. So what is agape love, this love that defines who God is and how God feels about us?

Well, it’s not something we’re born with. We had a great discussion in Sermon Talkback this week about whether or not we’re born with love, or just the ability to love. We concluded that we’re born with the need to survive, and must learn to love, which often calls us to do things that go against our survival, like sharing our resources or making ourselves vulnerable. We are not born with agape love in our DNA.

So where does it come from? Simple. We learn to love by being loved, just like we learn to hate by being hated. If our parents show us love and teach us to love others, we are filled with love. And if our parents treat us hatefully and teach us that other people should be hated, we are filled with hate. Both the love we feel and the hate we feel is learned from others, and is a direct result of how we are treated and how we learn that God feels about others, especially those different from us.

We’re not born with agape, and we also don’t have the capacity to create agape, because it didn’t come from us to begin with. It’s a gift from God, the key word being “gift.” There’s nothing we can do to earn God’s love. Some folks think that’s the only way to get it. If you believe the right things or behave the right ways, then God will love you. Some folks believe Jesus died on the cross because God was so mad at us that someone had to be murdered in order to set things right. But that doesn’t sound like agape to me. Does it to you? We can’t earn God’s love. It’s a gift.

And it’s a gift given to everybody. Here’s where we humans start to lose the plot. John spells it out pretty plainly: “Those who say, ‘I love God,’ and hate their brothers or sisters, are liars; for those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen.” You can’t wish harm on a person or group of people and love God. Those two things are diametrically opposed. I would go so far as to say you can’t condone hateful behavior, or stay silent while you watch it happen, and love God. The opposite of love is not just hate; it’s also apathy, indifference to the value of others in God’s eyes.

That’s because one of the crucial components in the definition of agape is that it is more than an emotion or a feeling; it is an action. Agape is not just a noun, it’s a verb. God’s love is something that is not just to be perceived or experienced; it is something to be expressed. It is not only expressed in loving others, it is also expressed in standing up to those who promote hate. Love in action is the most faithful way to counter the hate we see around us. Remember what John says: “Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another.  No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.”

That’s a tall order, right? It’s up to us for God’s love to be perfected? And this is written by a man who, just a one chapter before, calls his opponents “children of the devil.” That’s not very loving! Even John can’t get this exactly right. The truth is I can never love like God loves, because God loves people that I don’t want to love. But agape calls me out of my comfort zone, out of my cushy, insulated world of people who are just like me, into a world where I am challenged to show love for those whom I’d just as soon ignore, dismiss, even write off as children of the devil. Hey, the Bible never says this faith thing was going to be easy.

Trish and I have a lot more to say about this in the coming weeks. And, unfortunately, the world will probably give us a lot more to talk about. Here’s what I want you remember today: You are loved. You are loved. No qualifiers, no conditions. You may not always feel loveable or act loveable, but God that doesn’t stop God from loving you. You are made in God’s image, God is love, so you are loved. But that sentence isn’t complete until we add that you are also called to love others. We talk a lot about love. We sing about love. Love is at the core of our belief in Jesus Christ. But the real question is do we show love toward real-life people in ways that help them understand that God loves them, too.

One final quote, again from Phillip Gulley: “We don’t need to accept Jesus into our hearts; we need to have the same heart as Jesus.” We can go round and round about the political and societal implications of racism and Confederate statues and terrorist and radical agendas, but we have to start here, at the heart of Jesus, at the heart of our faith. We have to stand up against anyone who claims that hate is a part of faith. We have to lift up our voices on behalf of those who are drowned out by racists chants. We have to have the courage to say that all people matter to God, especially those who are told they don’t matter by others. We have to not only say with our mouths but live out with our hands and feet the most basic, fundamental fact of scripture: “God is love.”

 

 

 

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The Gospel According to Pixar sermon series: Inside Out

This is the last sermon in our series on Pixar movies, and it deals with one of the best and most complex of all of them. God bless!

SCRIPTURE – John 16:20-24 – Very truly, I tell you, you will weep and mourn, but the world will rejoice; you will have pain, but your pain will turn into joy. 21 When a woman is in labor, she has pain, because her hour has come. But when her child is born, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy of having brought a human being into the world. 22 So you have pain now; but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you. 23 On that day you will ask nothing of me. Very truly, I tell you, if you ask anything of the Father in my name, he will give it to you 24 Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, so that your joy may be complete.

SERMON
The Gospel According to Pixar sermon series
Inside Out
July 30, 2017
Rev. Kory Wilcoxson

 

I remember when I was a kid, my Memaw Bonnie had to go the hospital for some tests. She was having some cognitive issues, so the doctor ordered an MRI of her brain. The family waited anxiously for her to come home with the results. When she walked in, my uncle asked, “What did they find?” and she said with joy, “They didn’t find anything!” And I, being a kid with a kid’s sense of humor, found it outrageously funny that when the doctor did a scan of my Memaw’s brain, they didn’t find anything.

Wouldn’t you like to know what’s going on in people’s brains? Only about a million times a day, right? Well, our movie today, “Inside Out” gives you that opportunity. This is the final sermon in our “Gospel According to Pixar” sermon series. I hope you’ve received it the way I have experienced each of the movies: entertaining, enjoyable, but also insightful, and a catalyst to think about some of life’s deeper lessons.

In many ways, “Inside Out” is the deepest of all the movies we’ve examined, which makes it really, really hard to explain to those of you who haven’t seen the movie. I’m going to do my best, so hang in there with me. The movie focuses on Riley, an 11-year-old girl living with her parents in Minnesota. But only part of the movie is about the outside world. Most of it is about the emotions that exist inside of Riley.

I’m going to give you some visual cues to help you picture these emotions, and you can also use the front of your bulletin to see them. The main emotion in the movie is Joy. There is also Fear…Disgust…Anger…and Sadness. Inside Ellie’s brain is a control panel for her actions, and each emotion pushes the appropriate buttons that make Riley function. So, when her dad tries to feed her broccoli as a baby, Disgust takes over the control panel as Riley’s dominant emotion. When she doesn’t get the toy she wants at the store, Anger pushes the buttons. But it’s Joy that has control most of the time when Riley is little, and Joy works hard to keep the other emotions at bay.

Once we learn a little bit about Riley and her overall happy life, Joy says, “Riley just turned 11, what could happen?” Well, lots. First, her family moves from Minnesota to San Francisco for her dad’s new job. Riley is uprooted from her home, her friends, her school, her hockey team. She is forced to leave the place where she’s made all her happy memories. She is plopped down in a row house with no yard and sent to a school where she doesn’t know anyone. Want to guess which emotions take over the control panel? Sadness. Fear. Anger. Joy works hard to keep a balance in Riley’s life, but the other emotions start to dominate.

Riley begins to struggle and feel isolated from everyone, especially her parents. The movie personifies this by having Joy and Sadness get lost in Riley’s memories, leaving Fear, Anger, and Disgust to run the show. You can imagine that things don’t go well. Riley fails her hockey tryout and gets more sullen. She has a fight with her parents and withdraws into her anger and sadness. Finally, Anger gives her the idea of running away, back to Minnesota where all her happy memories were made. As Riley sinks deeper into her negative feelings, Joy begins to disappear completely from her life. It’s powerful allegory for what depression looks like.

While Joy and Sadness are lost together, Joy makes an important discovery. Her goal has always been to keep the other emotions at bay and to ensure that Riley is always happy. There’s actually a moment in the movie where Joy draws a circle on the ground and says to Sadness, “Your job is to keep all your sadness in this circle. Don’t let it go anywhere else.” But the circumstances of life have dictated that those other emotions need to be expressed at times.

Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever felt like expressing what you were truly feeling wasn’t acceptable? Riley’s mom tells her, “You’ve always been our happy girl. If you could just keep smiling, we can help Dad figure everything out.” The world tells us that our only choice of emotion should be Joy, that we should always be happy. If we go around being fearful or angry or disgusted or sad, people think something is wrong with us. Just imagine the reaction if you answered the question, “How are you?” with something other than “Fine.” “I’m sad, thanks for asking.” “I’m really angry. Wanna know why?” We can’t do that. That’s socially unacceptable. So instead we’re fine. We have to be fine. Even the Bible says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I say, rejoice.” That’s A saying fit for a keychain, isn’t it?

But the Bible says more than that about emotions. You heard what Psalm 55 said: “I am troubled in my complaint. I am distraught by the noise of the enemy.” Have you ever seen that on a keychain? There are plenty of psalms that express a whole range of emotions, from anger to fear to frustration to elation. As followers of Christ, we have good reason to always be joyful, because we have a reservoir of hope gifted to us by our faith in Jesus Christ. But we also live in this world, which can stir up in us so many emotions at the drop of a hat or post of a tweet. Is it OK to feel those emotions, too? Or should we just be fine?

What emotion do you think about when you think about Jesus? We’re told in Luke 10 that, “Jesus rejoiced in the Holy Spirit.” In John 15, Jesus says to his disciples, “I have said these things to you so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete.” Yeah, Jesus was a pretty joyful guy. But was that the only emotion he experienced?

“Disgust” is defined as “a feeling of revulsion or profound disapproval aroused by something unpleasant or offensive.” When a man brings his son to Jesus for a healing because the disciples were not able to do it themselves, Jesus says, “You faithless generation, how much longer must I be among you? How much longer must I put up with you?” Does that sound like profound disapproval to you? That’s only one example of the many times Jesus was disgusted with his disciples.

A man with a withered hand came to Jesus on the Sabbath to be healed, and the Pharisees and religious leaders said he was breaking a commandment by healing on the Sabbath. So it tells us in Mark 3, “Jesus looked around at them with anger; he was grieved at their hardness of heart and said to the man, ‘Stretch out your hand.’ He stretched it out, and his hand was restored.” You’ve probably heard the story of Jesus turning over the vendors’ table in the temple because he was angry that God’s house had been turned into Fayette Mall. Jesus could get angry.

Everybody knows the shortest verse in all the Bible, right? “Jesus wept.” But do you know the context? His friend Lazarus has died and Lazarus’ sisters Mary and Martha have called on Jesus for help. Jesus knows he’s going to bring Lazarus back from the dead, but when he comes to the tomb he is overcome with the emotion of the situation. John 11 says, “When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, he was greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved.  He said, ‘Where have you laid him?’ They said to him, ‘Lord, come and see.’ Jesus wept.” Jesus knew what it meant to be sad.

What about fearful? I always think of Jesus as confident, serene, resolute on fulfilling his mission. But Luke’s gospel has this peculiar account at the Mount of Olives, where Jesus goes to pray before he is arrested and then crucified the next day. Luke tells us, “Then he knelt down and prayed, ‘Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me; yet, not my will but yours be done.’ Then an angel from heaven appeared to him and gave him strength.  In his anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat became like great drops of blood falling down on the ground.” Considering what he was about to face, how could he not be afraid?

Jesus knows what it’s like to experience the full range of human emotions, because he was fully human. That says to me that all our emotions are valid and worthy of acknowledgment. It may not be socially acceptable to feel grief or anger or disgust, but it is a part of who we are as God’s creatures. Sure, it would be nice to have Joy at the controls all the time, but if that were the case, we would take the blessing of that emotion for granted. Think of it this way. The joy of Easter Sunday, the fact that Christ was resurrected from the dead, is only meaningful to us if we experience the sadness and pain of Good Friday. Sometimes we have to go through the hard parts of life to more fully appreciate the good ones.

In the movie, Joy finally comes to that realization, that Riley’s other memories have a place outside of that small circle. And at that moment, Sadness emerges as the true hero of the story. Joy and Sadness make it back to the control panel just before Riley runs way, and Joy steps out of the way so Sadness can take control. With Sadness at the helm, Riley says to her parents, “You need me to be happy, but I want to go home.” Her parents take her into their arms and share their own sadness about leaving Minnesota. And at that moment, Riley makes a new memory, one that mixes the emotions of joy and sadness, symbolizing the complexity of our human emotions. The movie ends with Riley getting an upgraded control panel in her brain so that there’s room for all the emotions to function. And Joy says, “Riley’s 12 now. What could happen?”

We know what could happen, right? Life. Life not only could happen, it will. We know it because we’ve lived it. We’ve experienced the power of our emotions. Those are not something to apologize for or feel ashamed about. Those are a gift from God. They allow us to truly feel all that life has to offer us, the highest highs and the lowest lows. For Riley, the key to her dealing with her difficult emotions was sharing them with others. When she finally told her parents why she was sad, they opened up about their own sadness, and in the midst of their shared grief they found joy together.

Who’s running your control panel? If it’s joy, then rejoice! But if it’s a less socially acceptable emotion, know that what you feel is just as accepted and valued by God as joy. Have you told God how you are feeling? Have you told someone else? You are not alone on this journey of life. We are walking it with you. And so is Jesus, who knows anger and disgust and sadness and fear. He knows what you’re going through. Remember what he said in John 16: “Very truly, I tell you, you will weep and mourn, but the world will rejoice; you will have pain, but your pain will turn into joy. When a woman is in labor, she has pain, because her hour has come. But when her child is born, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy of having brought a human being into the world. So you have pain now; but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.”

My prayer for you is that, in the midst of the difficult emotions you feel, you trust that something new is being born within you, something that will restore your joy and reconnect you with God. It may not happen today or tomorrow, but with the support of your friends and family and church, it will happen. Jesus says, “You will have pain, but your pain will turn to joy.” Thanks be to God.

 

 

 

 

 

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